When a couple is considering cuckold play, it is important to understand one another’s desires and boundaries. One moment the couple should anticipate with near certainty is that their “Bull” (the other man) will be releasing his creamy load at some point. Where should those creamy ropes of manly essence will be released? What is most desired and what is off limits for the couple? The woman obviously has final say because it is her body. However, she can’t run roughshod over her lover’s feelings either.
Now that I think about it, this seems like a great topic for a juicy poll question.
Note: The poll doesn’t work from the reader, so you’ll need to visit the website version of my blog – The Dionysian Experience. I’ll focus the poll question on what is most desired. The first poll is for male perspective and the second poll is for women.
Whether you are a man or woman, I hope you will participate in the poll, savor the possibilities, and enjoy digesting the results.
Poll Results and Reflections:
Survey results from over 100 male participants suggest cucks would overwhelmingly prefer that the other man cum inside our girl’s sweet pussy. Why might this be the #1 selection among cucks? One explanation I often hear from cucks flows around the theme of “claiming”. The other man, by pumping his creamy load inside our lover’s pussy, is making the ultimate statement of claiming our woman…at least for one night. Cucks in this mind space may lean towards being submissive and/or enjoy the beta male fantasy – a form of erotic humiliation. An even deeper mind fuck flowing in this same vein is the Wife Breeding fantasy – the ultimate claiming of our woman by a more physically capable man – the Alpha male.
Another erotic layer for men is the biological reaction some men experience known as Sperm Wars which tends to stimulate male sexual competition. Seeing another man cum inside our woman makes our cock harder, generates increased sperm production, and fills us with a burning desire to reclaim our girl. We have the uncontrolled desire to fuck the sperm of the other man out of our woman’s slick, cum-filled channel. The reclaiming is often cited as the highlight of the experience for the couple.
Another potential reason for the popularity of this response is that it sets the stage for a creampie. Some cucks are intensely aroused by the visual of another man’s sperm coating our shaft and serving as a lubricant while we slide in and out of our lover. An even more intense form of arousal can flow from the thought (or actual act) of licking the other man’s cum from our girl’s freshly seeded love tunnel.
How about what our ladies most desire? The results from the 50 or so female participants tend to align with the male survey results. A majority of women (who are open to cuckolding) would want the other man to cum in her pussy. There are some slight variations in responses to other cum-shot locations, but the sample size is too small to make a meaningful assessment.
Based on intimate conversations with former lovers and comments from female readers over the years on this subject, feeling the other man cumming inside her taps into several erotic layers within the female sexual psyche:
- Sensation of being claimed by the Alpha male
- Wife breeding (as a fantasy)
- Sets the stage for the reclaiming experience with her primary lover
- Satisfying multiple men and having the cum of several men inside her taps into her sexual goddess fantasy
- Naughtiness and taboo experience of having her lover licking another man’s cum from her freshly-fucked pussy (a woman may even refer to her pussy as “cunt” while in this sexually frenzied state of mind)
Once upon a time, I had a chance to have this very discussion with a former lover named Sienna. We were early in our relationship and cuckolding was just taking root in our erotic thoughts. Are you curious how a woman falling in love might respond to the thought of having another man’s cum inside or on her? You can read it here – The Other Man’s Cum.
- Sensual Shadows Chronology & Links: Brief descriptions and links to my loving, erotic journey with Sienna
- Cuckold Psychology – The Essentials: Brief descriptions and links to key essays exploring the underlying psychological drivers of the cuckold fantasy.
- Cock Size and Preference Poll – Ladies and gentlemen, I asked and you answered. Check out the results and participate.