I recently shared a set of poll questions asking men and women about their cock size and preferences, respectively. In today’s follow up, I’d like to share those results and provide a few reflections. If you would care to add to the discussion, the comment box is waiting.

The first question I asked was for women to share their ideal cock size for a one-night fantasy experience limited to vaginal penetration. The question had two caveats baked into it. The first was a “one-night” experience. I did this because what a woman might like to experience as a fantasy or on an infrequent basis might be different than her preferred cock size for more frequent use. The second caveat was “vaginal” penetration. I did this to avoid any crossover with anal-sex fantasies and different size preferences that might exist. Ladies, I don’t know what you say to one another about this topic but here are the secret desires of 23 women:

Almost three out four women (~75%) would prefer a long, thick cock for a fantasy experience. 90% of women expressed a preference for a “thick” cock (long & thick or average & thick). As a man, I’m admittedly guilty of too often thinking about cock size in terms of length but certainly appreciate the importance of thickness to women. This survey brings home the importance of thickness and, to a slightly lesser degree, length.

Given the cock-size desires of female participants, how do the male survey participants measure up? Ladies, 40 men have put their hard cock to measuring stick and are about to share the size of their manhood. Are you ready?

Approximately 80% of men describe their cock’s thickness as average or slim. 50% have average girth and 30% have slender shafts. This creates an interesting situation. 90% of women crave a thick cock, but 80% of men are average or slim. Given this mismatch, it seems reasonable that women would fantasize about a thicker cock because, more than likely, they aren’t regularly experiencing the nice fulfilling stretch they crave.

How about length? 75% of women specified “Long” as the preferred length of their fantasy partner’s cock. Here are the self-reported lengths of 39 male participants in the poll:

In order to make the comparisons and discussion a bit easier, I’m putting the nine different lengths into three groups:

  • Small = 5″ or less
  • Average = 5 1/2 – 6 1/2″
  • Long = 7+”

33% of men fall into the small category, 57% in the average group, and 10% in the long group. How do these self-reported lengths measure up with the female fantasy cock? 75% of women fantasize about a long, thick cock, while 10% of men fall into the “long” category. Similar to the thickness mismatch noted previously, there is also a notable difference between the cock length a woman fantasizes about and the self-reported lengths of male participants.

Will these results come as a surprise to men? I asked male participants what size cock they believe their lover would most enjoy? Here are those results:

Sticking with the same size grouping used previously, 71% of men believe their lover would most enjoy a long cock (7-9″ range). Recall that 75% of women expressed this same desire so it seems men are somewhat in tune with their lover’s desire and their capacity for more.

Limitations of this survey: I recognize the results reported in my poll may not be reflective of the general population. There is likely a bias induced with the method of delivery and the sample population. I anticipate that followers of my blog – The Dionysian Experience – are more likely to have a higher sexual libido than that of the general population and more in touch with their sexual desires and fantasies. There may be an additional bias driven by a disproportionate number of men and women that are into or curious about cuckolding – relative cock size often features prominently in this kink. Lastly, the sample size is a bit…small.

Up to this point, I have objectively presented the survey results. Now, I’d like to share a few personal takeaways. One key takeaway for me is the importance of bringing more to the bedroom in addition to my cock. More oral, more fingers, more creativity, and toys…even the willingness to wear a strap on to give my girl the added length and thickness she more than likely craves. Another takeaway I find especially intriguing is the cock size and preference disparity. If you are a regular reader of my blog, you know cuckolding (being aroused by my lover sleeping with another man) is a favorite fantasy of mine. These poll results create an intriguing backdrop for introducing cuckold play into your relationship.

It is more likely than not that my future lover will have fantasies about experiencing a long, thick cock. She probably wouldn’t bring this up this up proactively. Even if I ask her about it, she may not admit this desire for fear of hurting my ego. She may feign lack of interest and tell me that even thought of having a huge cock stretching her little pussy scares her or gives her “the vapors”. She will assure me that my cock is perfect for her, but that aching desire for more is probably present. Letting this go without further discussion would be such a missed opportunity for both of us to experience our wildest sexual fantasies while still within the loving framework of our relationship. Let me explain.

I’ve seen sexual research published in peer-reviewed journals indicating that 50% of men fantasize about watching their lover with another man. Put another way, if you are a woman that fantasizes about experiencing a big cock (and would like to do more than fantasize about it), there is 50% your man will want that for you. If you are a man, not gifted with length and thickness, there is a 75% chance your lover fantasizes about experiencing a bigger cock. She doesn’t want to leave you, she just gets hot thinking about having a little more between her legs…occasionally. However, she would never sacrifice your love for that decadent indulgence…unless you wanted to give her that erotic gift of guilt-free pleasure.

In my personal experience as a man that is into cuckolding, asking the question about cock-size fantasies and introducing cuckolding as a potential path to explore is always worth the risk of rejection. I don’t know if it is the way I bring it up or what, but women have been almost 100% open to at least exploring it on the fantasy level and most in making the fantasy a reality. Just remember, it is always about the couple’s loving, erotic journey. Even though another man is being introduced into the sexual dynamics, he is transitory. The experience is and has to always remain about the loving couple and both of there needs being met.

If you are interested in participating in the cock-size and preference poll, it is still open: Cock Size & Preference Poll

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