The Cuckold Corner: Interview with Henry

The Cuckold Corner is a series of interviews with men and women interested in the cuckold lifestyle. In the course of these interviews, I try to get a feel for the erotic layers flowing their cuckold fantasy and how it is similar to or different from more “common” cuckold fantasies.

Interracial sex (as a sexual kink) features prominently in the interview you are about to read. The distinction between interracial relationships and interracial sex as a kink should be noted. The former refers to people falling in love without regard to ethnic differences. The latter eroticizes ethnic differences and this will become a central theme in this Henry’s fantasy. While interracial sex extends to all ethnicities, the focus today is on white couples and black men – a somewhat common dynamic in cuckold play. An objection about sexualization of black men is sometimes raised on this topic. I would take it a step further and say it is the sexualization of everyone involved. After all, it is a sexual kink and all about the sexual pleasure of the consenting adults.

Henry joins me today to share his cuckold fantasy. Henry is a 40-something, married British male. He has never been cuckolded but identifies this as #1 fantasy. Fair warning, I push back on Henry quite a bit in this interview – directly and through adding context for the reader. I do this to in order to tease out the differences between what I view as wildly unrealistic fantasies and experiences found in real-life cuckolding. I do this because my cuckold explorations are focused on how the fantasy is actually experienced within a loving, erotic relationship, not to promote outlandish fantasies that might deter women who are curious about exploring cuckolding with their lover.

Cuckold Corner with Henry

Michael – Thank you for agreeing to this interview.

Henry – Sure, the pleasure is mine. I have some things I want to share and hope it is a message that gets out and helps others like myself.

Michael – Before we get into the message you want to share, would you mind elaborating on what you mean when you say, “others like myself”?

Henry – Of course. I’m an attractive yet smallish white male that actively embraces the role of being a beta male. No longer do I have to try and be something I’m not. I don’t have a big cock and don’t feel the need to compensate for this through false bravado. Nor do I feel the need to mock or demean those males who have what I don’t. I’m simply a good looking but smallish white male who is happy with himself and his place in life. It’s like a new day, and I feel very liberated.

Michael – Liberation is a wonderful state of mind. You made reference to your smallish physical stature, endowment, and consider yourself a beta male. How does this connect to your cuckold fantasy?

Henry – I believe a specific niche has opened for men like me in the form of interracial cuckolding. We can be there to care for, support, and love women who have an attraction to big black males. Our women are free to have unlimited access to men they desire while always having the support and care of her cuckold. The cuckold gains much of his sexual satisfaction vicariously through his wife/girlfriend’s enjoyment of her additional lovers.

🔍 The “beta” male aspect of cuckolding is common. It is an erotic trigger to know our lover is experiencing and craves a more physically capable man – often characterized as a black male with a larger cock. This desire can be expressed subtly by the cuckold or, as in Henry’s fantasy, take center stage. Henry is also expressing compersion by finding pleasure and happiness in lovers pleasure.

Michael – You are touching on a lot of themes I come across in interracial cuckolding. I’d like to drill down on a few of them to better understand your desires. Earlier, you mentioned not needing to make demeaning comments about others that have what you don’t. What does this mean to you?

Henry – We all know for the most part that black guys have bigger cocks and have more muscular physiques. This bothers some people and they can’t handle it so they make derogatory comments to make themselves feel better about they perceive as their own inadequacies.

🔍 Black men (warranted or not) hold a place in the sexual psyche of some for being the most endowed and most physically capable lovers. As a result, well-endowed black men often feature prominently in the fantasies of some cuckold couples.

Michael – You mentioned your physical stature earlier and how this might lead your lover to crave a man of more substantial physical stature. Tell me more about this.

Henry – For cuckolds like myself, I believe we are tapping into something very primal. I imagine ancient communities where the smaller male was not seen as a viable partner to most women. Women selected the strongest and most successful warriors for protection and preferentially mated with them. The smaller male’s place was to support the females of dominant alpha males. I think women still desire this.

🔍 Henry may be eroticizing his diminutive physical stature by turning it into something that excites him. Cuckolds (myself included) more commonly do this through cock size references. It excites us when our lover craves more and embraces the fullness of her sexuality. Sometimes, there might be an element of inversion at play as well. Inversion refers to the rush we experience when becoming something we are not. For example, many cuckolds are actually Alpha-males in real life. However, they experience a dizzying erotic rush from being cuckolded and taking on the beta male status. It is similar to a strong woman who finds pleasure in being a submissive. 

Michael – In your description of the ancient world, I imagine there was some balance of physical stature, intellect, and power that would appeal to those women. Physical stature may have even played a more prominent role. I’m not sure being a great swordsman (pardon the pun) carries the same weight today as it did back in the day. Societies evolve and what may be seen as the ideal mate today may be very different than it was long ago.

Henry – I think women still have the same genetic wiring. A physical specimen excites them today just as it always has. I think white women are drawn to black men as alpha males because of their physical prowess and large cocks. Maybe they just don’t act on it because of the economic reasons you suggested and societal pressures. It is difficult to prove or advance my belief. What I do know with certainty is that I would gain great sexual satisfaction from my wife mating with dominant black men. I’m really not sure why there aren’t many more of these relationships as such relationships seem to exemplify what black men, white women, and white men are looking for. 

🔍 How compelling is the Black Mystique for women? Henry believes the calling is very strong. I have several interviews with women about this topic in my Cuckold Corner – The Interviews series and have personally experienced it with lovers. The black mystique certainly exists as an erotic trigger in the sexual thoughts of “some” women, but not all women. We may see this a lot in cuckold circles but we can’t extrapolate this to the general population.

Michael – We might find it helpful to step back and take a little wider view of interracial relationships and relationships in general. Is it possible that some black men fantasize about their wives cuckolding them with white men? There are also large white men and small black men in the world. How about Latino men or Asian men fantasizing about their wives cuckolding them with white men or black men? Of course, there are plenty of women that aren’t interested in cuckolding at all. Everyone doesn’t view the world through the lens of cuckolding.

Henry – Well, I don’t know about those scenarios. It isn’t what excites me. Fair points though. Anyway, whatever the situation, I happen to believe there’s a good opportunity for white cuckolds, white girls, and black bulls to each find their niche —hopefully, we can all come together!

Michael – You have mentioned your acceptance of the beta male role. Let me push your thoughts a little further. What do you think about the sexual fantasy of “wife breeding”? Specifically, does the thought of a more physically capable man “breeding” your wife excite you?

Henry – Fuck yes! That is hot! It is like the law of natural selection.

🔍 In general, I think the wife breeding fantasy is an incredibly erotic thought. Some might even consider it the capstone event in cuckolding. Not only has another man fucked my lover better, touching her in places I will never reach, he ultimately took her in the fullest measure measure by seeding her womb. I explore this fantasy in Cuckold Psychology: The Wife Breeding Fantasy and with a lover here – Sienna on Wife Breeding.

Michael – Wife breeding is an interesting fantasy I see in some cuckold erotica. I think this is a fringe fantasy even among cuckolds so I was curious to get your take. Personally, I think there are several erotic triggers at play: exhibitionism, submission, male competition, and erotic humiliation.

Henry – I don’t know if your theories apply to me. I’m not really humiliated by this. I am merely accepting what is evident and inevitable. I would love taking care of and supporting my wife and the offspring of her Alpha male. That is what a good beta male does.

Michael – You have shared some interesting insights throughout this session and have made important contributions to my research. I appreciate you taking some time to walk me through your fantasy. On a lighter note, I hope your wife will soon experience the decadent pleasure of a real man’s cock buried deep inside her fertile pussy.

Henry – Ha! You and me both! Thanks for such thoughtful, insightful, and considerate responses. Damn these fetishes and where they come from! I hope we hear more about your relationships and your thoughts on cuckolding because you write so erotically, openly, and honestly.

Postscript:

I never asked Henry if he shared his cuckold fantasy with his wife. It was a big miss. It would have been interesting to know her reaction and what aspects, if any, excited her. Your thoughts and comments are always welcomed.

Suggested Readings:

• Cuckold Corner – The Interviews
• Cuckold Psychology – The Essentials