Why should a woman bother with the male, cock-centric kink known as Small Penis Teasing? Ladies, if your man finds this kink arousing, you have the power to take him to heights of erotic euphoria he never thought possible. As the provider of his transcendent ecstasy, you become a sexual goddess with the power to lift him beyond this earthly realm. His devotion and attention to you and your needs will be like nothing you ever imagined possible. It can even open doors to your naughty desires.
So, what exactly is this kink? Small penis teasing is a form of erotic humiliation (psychological masochism) – masochism is the “M” in BDSM. Basically, the man finds pleasure in being teased about having a small penis. When a man’s lover talks about it being small while stroking and sucking on it or expressing her desire to have a “real cock” inside her during a heated fucking are examples of small penis teasing. [Whew, I got hard just typing this out.]
I also enjoy cuckolding (watching my lover with other men – especially hung black men) and small penis teasing merges nicely within my cuckold fantasy. As you might imagine, these desires can sometimes come across as a little confusing to women. This was the case with Amanda as she was browsing my content. Join me for another edition of the Cuckold Corner, as I try help Amanda wrap her mind around small penis teasing and uncover several common concerns women have with this kink.
Cuckold Corner – Amanda on Small Penis Teasing
Michael – Men often read or hear that women don’t think a lot about cock size and that size doesn’t matter. In our last discussion, Amanda on the Black Mystique, you seemed to go against this by suggesting women are indeed curious about big cocks?
Amanda – What matters most is how a man treats a woman. I guess a big cock would be an enhancement as long as the guy isn’t a big prick himself.
Michael – True, the whole person concept is very important. I think most of us want to be with someone that we feel excited about, treats us well, and would be proud to introduce to others. Assuming you are with a great guy that happens to have a large cock, would you feel an added sense of pride knowing your man is hung?
Amanda – I’m sure it would boost his ego but a sense of pride for me? Hmm, I don’t know. Up until now, I haven’t really given that much thought.
Michael – I’ve always been curious about sexual conversations women have with one other. Would you say the endowment of boyfriends is a common topic?
Amanda – LOL! That is such a guy question! We do talk about men and sex but not so much about cock size. Girls don’t look at sex like men do. We are often looking for something more than just sex. If I actually did show show them a picture or told them about my guy’s big cock, I guess they might associate it with me being more satisfied and they would be happy for me. I would need to be careful though because it might be perceived as bragging or they might think I like him just because he has a big cock.
Michael – Let’s flip this around. Would you feel embarrassed if your man had a small penis and even more so if your girlfriends knew he had a small penis?
Amanda – I don’t think I would be embarrassed. Men aren’t perfect after all. Besides, a man can’t control the size of his penis and there are some great guys out there with small cocks. If they happen to be big, that is just a bonus. If you are a good man, a woman will love and appreciate you and her friends will appreciate you too.
Amanda’s cock-size references are subtle but she associated a larger cock size with more pleasure/satisfaction and a smaller cock with not being perfect. In short, it is the essence of man that matters most. A big cock – even occasionally – would just be a bonus. She also makes a reference to societal/cultural norms by being worried other women would judge her negatively for craving a big cock for sexual pleasure.
Michael – This makes complete sense and is a very real-world perspective. There is much more to a man and your relationship with him than the size of his cock. I apologize for so many questions but they are purposeful. Let me run a scenario by you:
You are in a loving relationship with a good man that treats you well but he is on the smaller side of average. He shares a fantasy about wanting to watch you have sex with other men – more endowed men. You are free to experience big cocks as a purely physical experience without having to think about all of the other factors. How would you feel about cock size in this scenario knowing your man wants you to have more?
Amanda – Well, like I told you before, I have only been with a few men in my life and I think they were probably average size I guess. I am very curious about experiencing a big cock and would be open to that scenario for sure.
I find Amanda’s desire to experience a big cock fascinating. She has downplayed it throughout our discussion. When limiting factors (commitment, a man’s personality, societal expectations, perceptions of friends, etc.) are stripped away and all that remains is sexual desire, she wants to experience a big cock. This desire is primal.
Amanda – I have a question for you.
Michael – Sure, fire away.
Amanda – Some guys like this kink even though they are actually average sized. Where do you fall in with that? I would like to see if you want to send me a pic.
Michael – This is a great callout. There are plenty of men with “average” cocks that enjoy this kink. The thing is, there are always men with larger cocks and your man will be small by comparison so there is plenty of space to play in this fantasy. As for why I like this kink, I wrote a post – Erotic Humiliation – which explains why this fantasy makes me hot. I’d rather not go through it all again here other than to confirm that it does make me so hot. What do you think about the small penis teasing kink? If you knew it made your man hot, could you get into teasing him about his little penis and even letting him know you are craving a more substantial cock?
Amanda – I don’t know. I’m not sure I find this kink exciting and don’t think I’d want to do that to a man. Maybe it’s more exciting for men?
Michael – You mention doing this “to” a man like it is against his will and desire. Cuckolding and small penis teasing are sexual kinks that excite some men. If your man has these desires, you aren’t doing it “to” him, you are doing it “for” him or “with” him. If you were to fall in love with a man and he shared this fantasy, you might feel differently about it knowing it turns your man on.
Amanda – Okay, I get it. You didn’t answer my question though about your cock size or the pic.
Michael – Ah, you noticed that? You are curious about the size of my cock?
Amanda – Yes, actually I am! I’m curious now! I’ve seen portions of you on your blog and I find myself wanting to see your cock.
Michael – Amanda, you are being such a naughty girl. You want to know the size of my cock AND see a cock shot?
Amanda – Omg, you are really teasing me about this picture! I could share a picture with you. What kind of picture would you like from me?
Michael – Do you typically ask men for photos of their cock? Does it make you feel excited and filled with anticipation as you wait?
Amanda – It’s so odd, men usually send them to me and I don’t ask or even want to see them. I feel embarrassed asking you, but I am so curious and – yes – waiting with anticipation! I want to see your cock!
Michael – Would you prefer that it be hard or soft?
Amanda – Hard, please…
Michael – I will share a photo in the future and you are always welcome to as well. I’m genuinely flattered and aroused that you made this request…thank you.🔥
Amanda – OMG! Stomp, mmmph!!!
(Mmmm, this was super hot!)
Michael – I’ve brought up sharing things with your girlfriends a few times. Small penis teasing in the privacy of a relationship is one thing but there is an added erotic burn when it becomes more public. It adds to the erotic humiliation when it becomes more public. Here’s another scenario to consider:
Imagine we are a couple and small penis teasing and erotic humiliation is part of our sexual play. We are hanging out with your girlfriends and you make a small penis reference that catches their attention. You snuggle into me all loving and playful and say to them, “Yes, he’s a great guy and has a cute little penis.” They giggle with you. I would find this public teasing to be super hot. What are your thoughts on this?
Amanda – I do like teasing. If it made you hot, I could probably draw a girlfriend or two into what is happening and tell them you have a little penis or something. It would be important though that they knew how close we were and that you liked it. I wouldn’t want them to think I was being mean.
When introducing the small penis teasing kink to our lover, we need to anticipate she will see it as something that feels mean and hurtful. She loves you and doesn’t want to hurt you. Plus, she wouldn’t want you to say mean, degrading, or humiliating things to her about her or her body (unless she was also into erotic humiliation). Be prepared to offer a lot of reassurances about how much it excites you.
Michael – I appreciate your real-world perspective in answering these questions. Mmm, the thought of you sharing such a naughty little secret with a girlfriend or two is very steamy. Every time I would see them, it would give me such a hot rush knowing they know our little secret. I have one more theme to explore if you can indulge me?
Amanda – Of course, this is fun!
Michael – Great! Is it a special feeling to know the man you are in love with is giving you the best sex of your life?
Amanda – Ah, I think this is the question most women can answer more clearly. Yes! It is amazing to be in love and feel like you are having the best sex of your life. You have this one man that is satisfying all your desires – emotional and physical. He is perfect for you and fulfills you in every way like no one else can.
Amanda shares a central belief here that so many women want to have about their lover – he is the best man for her in every way. Cuckolding and small penis teasing work against this vision. We are asking our lover to tease us about being “less than” with small penis teasing. We then add cuckolding to the mix and encourage her to experience bigger cocks and, potentially, the best sex of her life…with another man. This works against her emotions and might not be an appealing place for her to go. Men need to make this fantasy emotionally safe and erotic for our lover. The strength, love, and emotional safety of the relationship must always be protected.
Michael – You excitedly share this vision of one man fulfilling all your desires but there is something about cuckolding and, as you shared in our last discussion, experiencing a big black cock that calls to you. If you and your lover are into cuckolding, you will likely come across a man that actually does give your more physical pleasure than your lover is capable of providing you. What do you think about that possibility?
Amanda – Oh wow. I’m just reading what I wrote about having everything in one man but being intrigued by cuckolding and black men. Maybe the other guy wouldn’t be as good?
Michael – Hmmm, would you be thinking about other men with an expectation that sex would be less fulfilling than what you are already experiencing?
Amanda – No. You’re right.
Amanda is experiencing the disorienting erotic swirl that flows through the minds of men and women in cuckolding. This mind fuck is the erotic elixir. We have a vision of how things should be – instilled and reinforced by society – but it isn’t our dream. We have other dreams…naughty dreams that fill us with heat when we think about a woman in love with one man while surrendering her body to another man. It feels wrong but our arousal reveals our truth. This place of love, erotic heat, sexual liberation, joy, confusion, ecstasy, and irrationality is the archetypal energy of Dionysus – patron god of my blog, The Dionysian Experience.
In parting, I’ll leave you with a chart that allegedly reflects research based on women’s cock-size preferences. Not sure if this preference is for a one-night stand or for daily use because legitimate studies suggest those two scenarios may have different answers. Initially, I thought this chart was probably developed by a man that enjoys small penis teasing. Over time, and through personal experience with women that have cuckolded me with more endowed men, I’m beginning to think there may be some validity to it. However, I do believe the lower range (length/thickness) rating of “not enjoyable” is too extreme. Even a small cock can be part of a magical experience. I will leave this for your consideration…
Cuckold Corner is an ongoing series of interviews with men and women who are interested cuckolding/hotwife lifestyle and other kinks often associated with this lifestyle.
- Cuckold Corner – Chronology – Index of interviews with brief descriptions and links
- Amanda on the Black Mystique – Amanda discusses her curiosity about black men