The Cuckold Corner is a series of interviews with men and women interested in the cuckold lifestyle. In the course of these interviews, I try to get a feel for how cuckolding is featured in their sexual play and how it is similar to or different from more “common” cuckold fantasies.
Interracial sex (as a sexual kink) features prominently in the interview you are about to read. The distinction between interracial relationships and interracial sex as a kink should be noted. The former refers to people falling in love without regard to ethnic differences. The latter eroticizes ethnic differences and is the focus of my exploration. While interracial sex extends to all ethnicities, the focus today is on white couples and black men – a common dynamic in cuckold play. The interracial sex kink flows both ways and isn’t only white couples seeking black men. There are also “some” black men that find particular pleasure in sleeping with white women, especially white wives. Each derives added sexual pleasure from the interracial layers of these sexual liaisons.
Henry joins me today to share his perspective on the fantasy. Henry is a 40-something, married British male. He has never been cuckolded but identifies this as #1 fantasy.
Cuckold Corner with Henry
Michael – Thank you for agreeing to this interview.
Henry – Sure, the pleasure is mine. I have some things I want to share and hope it is a message that gets out and helps others like myself.
Michael – Would you mind elaborating on what you mean when you say, “others like myself”?
Henry – I’m an attractive yet smallish white male that actively embraces the role of being a beta male. No longer do I have to try and be something I’m not. I don’t have a big cock and don’t feel the need to compensate for this through false bravado. Nor do I feel the need to mock or demean those males who have what I don’t. I’m simply a good looking but smallish white male who is happy with himself and his place in life. It’s like a new day and I feel very liberated.
The “beta” male aspect of cuckolding is common. It is an erotic trigger to know our lover is experiencing and craves a more physically capable man. This desire can be expressed subtly by the cuckold or, as in Henry’s fantasy, take center stage.
Michael – Liberation is a wonderful state of mind. You made reference to your smallish physical stature, endowment, and consider yourself a beta male. How does this connect to your cuckold fantasy?
Henry – I believe a specific niche has opened up for males like me in the form of interracial cuckolding. This is a niche where a white male can look after, care, support, and love a white female who has an attraction to big black males. Such a relationship allows the white female to have unlimited access to black men while always having the support and care of her white cuckold. The cuckold gains much of his sexual satisfaction vicariously through his wife/girlfriend’s enjoyment of black lovers.
Michael – You are touching on a lot of themes I come across in interracial cuckolding. I’d like to drill down on some of them individually for a moment if you don’t mind. Earlier, you mentioned not needing to make demeaning comments about others that have what you don’t. What are you talking about here?
Henry – We all know for the most part that black guys have bigger cocks and have more muscular physiques. This bothers some people and they can’t handle it so they make derogatory comments to make themselves feel better about they perceive as their own inadequacies.
Whether we are discussing cuckolding or not, black men seem hold a place in our sexual psyche as being the the most endowed and most physically capable lovers. I provide a thoughtful exploration of how this came to be in Black Mystique – Presence. Many cuckolds believe the potential for their lover to experience her greatest sexual fulfillment will come from a more physically capable and endowed black man.
Michael – You mention your physical stature earlier and then went to the thought about white women craving black men. Help me connect the dots.
Henry – For cuckolds like myself, I believe we are tapping into something very primal. I imagine ancient communities where the smaller male was not seen as a viable partner to most women. Women selected the strongest and most successful warriors for protection and preferentially mated with them. The smaller male’s place was to support the females of dominant alpha males. I think women still desire this.
Henry seems to be eroticizing his diminutive physical stature and turning it into something that excites him sexually. Cuckolds often do this as part of the beta male fantasy and it is especially pronounced when it comes to comparative cock size. We want our lover to experience and crave more pleasure than we can provide with our tiny, little, or smaller cock. As a form of sexual play, a couple might be able to act out such fantasies intermittently. As a constant state of life, I can envision quite a few challenges to this arrangement.
Michael – In your description of the ancient world, I imagine there was some balance of physical stature, intellect, and power that would appeal to those women. Physical stature may have even played a more prominent role. I’m not sure being a great swordsman (pardon the pun) carries the same weight today as it did back in the day. Societies evolve and what may be seen as the ideal mate today may be very different than it was long ago.
Henry – I think women still have the same genetic wiring. A physical specimen excites them today just as it always has. I think white women are drawn to black men as alpha males because of their physical prowess and large cocks. Maybe they just don’t act on it because of the economic reasons you suggested and societal pressures. It is difficult to prove or advance my belief. What I do know with certainty is that I would gain great sexual satisfaction from my wife mating with dominant black men.
Culture is a powerful force and influences our perceptions of sexuality. How compelling is the Black Mystique for women? Henry believes the calling is very strong. I have several interviews with women about this topic in my Cuckold Corner series and have personally experienced it with lovers. I believe the black mystique does exist as an erotic trigger in the sexual thoughts of “some” women.
Michael – You are making some interesting points. You make a point to specifically mention a preference for your wife to have sex with black men. Tell me more about this desire.
Henry – Our sexual satisfaction as beta males is enhanced when the alpha males are black and our partners white. I’m really not sure why there aren’t many more of these relationships as such relationships seem to exemplify what many black and white men are looking for.
I am of the mind that interracial sex/cuckolding (as a kink) is a reaction to and rejection of cultural bias. This is a point I advance in Black Mystique – Presence. The interracial aspect of this fantasy is fairly common among black men and white couples so I want to see why Henry believes this is the case.
Michael – We might find it helpful to step back and take a little wider view of interracial relationships and relationships in general. Is it possible that some black men fantasize about their wives cuckolding them with white men? There are also large white men and small black men in the world. How about Latino men or Asian men fantasizing about their wives cuckolding them with white men where power play is eroticized? Of course, there are plenty of women that aren’t interested in cuckolding at all. Everyone doesn’t view the world through the lens of cuckolding.
Henry – Well, I don’t know about those scenarios. It isn’t what excites me. Fair points though. Anyway, whatever the situation, I happen to believe there’s a good opportunity for white cuckolds, white girls, and black bulls to each find their niche —hopefully, we can all come together!
Michael – You have mentioned your acceptance of the beta male role. Let me push your thoughts a little further. What do you think about the sexual fantasy of “wife breeding”? Specifically, does the thought of a black man “breeding” your wife excite you?
Henry – Fuck yes! That is hot! It is like the law of natural selection. White women and black men are meant to be together.
Henry’s comment offers a curious blend of ethnocentrism (elevating the white female) and possibly a loose interpretation of xenocentrism (elevating the black male) in a manner that ultimately results in Henry’s subjugation – a theme I see increasingly in European “cuckold” content. In general, I think the wife breeding fantasy is an incredibly erotic thought. In a sense, it might even be the capstone event in cuckolding. Not only has another man fucked my lover better, touching her in places I will never reach, he ultimately took her in the fullest measure measure by seeding her womb. As a good cuck, I will dutifully raise his offspring. This is just a fantasy though.
Michael – Wife breeding is an interesting fantasy I see in some cuckold erotica. I think this is a fringe fantasy even among cuckolds so I was curious to get your take. I suspect it has ties to exhibitionism, submission, sperm wars, and erotic humiliation. If your wife has a black baby then (barring adoption) it is evident to everyone that another man fucked your wife, came inside her, and “bred” her. In this sense, you are exposed publicly (exhibitionism and humiliation) as a cuckold.
Henry – I don’t know if your theories apply to me. I’m not really humiliated by this. I am merely accepting what is evident and inevitable. I would love taking care of and supporting my wife and the offspring of her black alpha male. That is what a good beta male does.
Henry makes an interesting distinction several times in this interview where he downplays “humiliation” as a driving force in his fantasy. I have written posts that distinguish cuckolding, Femdom, and erotic humiliation as sexual kinks that can exist independently of one another but are often intertwined with cuckolding. Henry denies any erotic humiliation driving his fantasy but is no doubt getting an erotic rush just telling me how he accepts his beta status and how he longs to submit with his wife to a more dominant male.
Michael – You have shared some interesting insights throughout this session and have made important contributions to my research. I appreciate you taking some time to walk me through your fantasy. On a lighter note, I hope your wife will soon experience the decadent pleasure of a real man’s cock buried deep inside her fertile pussy.
Henry – Ha! You and me both! Thanks for such thoughtful, insightful, and considerate responses. Damn these fetishes and where they come from! I hope we hear more about your relationships and your thoughts on cuckolding because you write so erotically, openly, and honestly.
I never asked Henry if he shared his fantasy with his wife. It was a big miss. It would have been interesting to know her reaction and what aspects, if any, excited her. Your thoughts and comments are always welcomed.
Additional cuckold interviews and posts devoted to the psychology of cuckolding are available here – Cuckold Psychology – The Essentials.