Sienna and I are a loving couple building towards our first experience with another man. We have been engaging with Jalen – a handsome, muscular, bright, and well-hung black man – to join us in a naughty adventure. The erotic buildup has been hot on many levels but the early dialogue between Sienna and Jalen feels off from how Sienna and I want to experience this. It is more pornographic than erotic and our sensual connection is absent because there has been little to no acknowledgement of my presence.
The fantasy is always perfect. Reality is less controllable. I want Sienna to have an amazing first experience and, if this doesn’t go well, I know there won’t be a second experience. As Sienna and I worked through this fantasy over the past year, she consistently described how she wanted to experience another man. Her thoughts were sensual and hesitant…she wanted to submit to my desire for her to be with another man and my presence was so important to her. Now, she is sharing erotic vignettes with Jalen that are void of any mention of me or any form of submission to me in her communication with Jalen. The contrast between our fantasy and this reality is stark.
While I enjoy Daddy Dom play, cuckolding is what really gets me off. I am actually fine with Sienna experiencing Jalen in whatever way she desires. My concern though is that she may be overly excited about interacting with a new man and losing sight of the larger context. I don’t want her to behave in a way she might regret in the aftermath.
The erotic story she is telling Jalen in their steamy messages is creating expectations for how she wants him to handle her. It is different than the story she has been telling me. These two stories can’t co-exist in the same experience. In one version, Jalen dominates and takes her. In the other version, she is submissive to me and I am very involved…giving her to him.
Sienna assures me that she always sees me in the room and that my presence is part of the experience that excites her the most. My presence is something that was very important to Sienna at the inception of our fantasy and through its evolution. If this is still the case, I ask her to include this and reinforce it in the erotic vignettes she shared with Jalen.
Sienna quickly agrees but offers a defense for her past behavior. She points out that Jalen has read all of our stories about this fantasy and understands the experience we want to have. I believe Jalen only feels and anticipates what she communicates to him. What she says is what he expects. And, what she is saying to him is creating expectations that are very different from our fantasy. I decide to reach out to Jalen and copy Sienna on the email.
Subject: Fine Wine vs. Tequila
Sounds like life is pretty full and exciting for you these days. Speaking of which, I’m really looking forward to seeing Sienna excited and full of you! We’ve come a long way from the first back and forth sexy banter on our blogs. Really, this couldn’t have worked out any better. I like that it was our willingness to use our minds and creativity that drove us to WordPress and subsequently meeting one another. While your physical attributes certainly have Sienna dripping with anticipation, it is her sense of knowing you for a while and your understanding of our relationship that gives her the courage to finally make this fantasy a reality. I feel the same way.
Regarding our play, especially this first time, I want to ease Sienna into this. Being taken by another man will be emotionally intense for her and I don’t want her to feel like things are moving too fast. While it may not be coming through in the messages from Sienna, I am going to be very present and close to her throughout the evening. Feeling the presence of our sensual connection in the moment and throughout the evening will be important for us as a couple as we emotionally process this experience in our afterglow. Sustaining our connection is essential to us having a positive experience and our interest in future visits.
Sienna is a sensual woman…an angel exploring her naughty side. As I think about the vibe of our evening together, a comparison might be useful. One experience has the vibe of pounding tequila shots followed by Red Bull chasers. The other is like sipping a fine wine and savoring the rich multi-layered essence of wetness coating your tongue and filling your senses.
Sienna is a fine-wine experience and should be savored slowly, richly, and deeply. As the evening progresses or in future visits the tone may change as we explore different types of play. Initially though, overly assertive or aggressive behavior will detract from the experience for us.
Sienna is delicate and flowing… a beautiful flower with silky petals waiting to be explored deeply and opened wide before you. ~ Michael
Sienna responds to a copy of the email I send her:
Sienna – Baby, I just read your message twice and LOVED it!!!! It was so good! You made me feel all warm inside. I like how you shared how connected we are and the way you used the ‘tequila-fine wine’ metaphor!!!! Mmmmm!
In my email, I wanted to protect our vision of the fantasy and my vision of Sienna. The experience we want to have is sensual, dreamy, and erotic. It is an experience where Sienna and I stay connected and share in the experience together. My early sense is that Jalen has a very different vision. Maybe I’m being selfish, but Sienna and I are the couple and we want to experience “our” fantasy, not his fantasy. This experience will become part of our journey as a couple, and I need to ensure it is a hot one. Jalen doesn’t have to worry about any of this because he is just going to fuck her and will then move on with his life.
In these early days, I wanted to stay on the periphery but felt like I needed to step in and get things on track. I have a lot emotion, energy, and creativity vested in this experience as well. Now I will step back and watch as our erotic play unfolds…closer to script, hopefully.
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